What Watching My Mother Taught Me About Becoming

A personal reflection on how Still Becoming Me was born, inspired by watching a mother choose herself and learning that healing, honesty, and growth don’t require perfection.

1/18/20262 min read

Still Becoming Me was inspired by watching someone I love choose herself.

My mom has always worked hard, but in recent years, I watched her step fully into herself. She got her LLC. She wrote a children’s book. Then she kept going. She published more books and began building a brand rooted in healing, peace, and purpose.

What stood out to me most wasn’t just what she accomplished. It was how she did it. With intention. With faith. Without apology.

Watching her made something click for me.

I realized that becoming doesn’t mean waiting until you’re perfect. It means moving forward while you’re still healing. It means choosing yourself even when it feels uncomfortable.

I’m a Black woman. I’m 23. I live with anxiety and depression. For a long time, I hid that part of myself. I was ashamed of it. I avoided telling people I had a mental illness because I didn’t want to be judged, pitied, or misunderstood.

So I learned how to mask.
I learned how to keep going quietly.
I learned how to survive without letting it show.

But hiding came at a cost.

Eventually, I realized that silence wasn’t protecting me. It was keeping me stuck. Naming my anxiety and depression didn’t make me weak. It made me honest. And honesty is where my healing actually began.

Still Becoming Me was born in that space. The space between who I was pretending to be and who I really am.

This brand is for people like me. Black women who are trying to build, heal, believe, and breathe all at once. Women who don’t always feel strong, but keep showing up anyway. Women who are tired of performing wellness and ready for something real.

My mom’s journey gave me permission to imagine my own. Not the same path, but the same courage. The same belief that becoming is allowed to take time.

I am still me.
I am growing.
I am learning how to choose myself without shame.

Still Becoming Me isn’t about arrival.
It’s about honoring the process.

If you’re here, you’re becoming too 🤎💙